Friday, September 19, 2008

My saddest day

I guess it is time to tell our whole story and it is so different from what I have been excitedly waiting to blog about. Last week we were told that we had finally been granted a court date for next week. September 25th was going to be a huge days of celebration for the Bilyeu family! We were ecstatic about it particularly because our coordinator had been called by the courts, asking for our documents and then a few days later set a court date. This was the first true movement since we left two and a half months ago and it had been initiated by the court instead of by our coordinator. I just knew that things were going to be OK for Addison. We were going to actually have travel dates by the end of next week and I could hardly contain my excitement. We were going to get our precious baby home! Ansley and I did a little baby shopping and we were making plan to finally paint and decorate the nursery for next weekend. Life was good and I finally felt like I could breathe again.

Today, we were notified that we were no longer have a court date. Apparently, in addition to the judge and our coordinator, an adoption specialist from Tokok has to be present at court. By report she was notified of the date and our coordinator talked to her and all was OK. Then today our coordinator called to make sure that everything we set for next week, you know just 6 days away, and the adoption specialist left for Italy yesterday. Get this she is going to be gone for a MONTH so no court for us. No new date can even be ventured at at this time. Of course, I will let you all read between the lines but I find this whole story very difficult to swallow. I am going to leave it at that because I am so upset and sad right now that I may write things that I may come to regret.

What is wrong with these people? I have always believed that people are inherently good and that is especially true when it comes to children, now I am thinking that this clearly does not apply to the very people that are charged with caring for Kyrgyzstan's most volunerable population, the precious orphans.

I just don't know what to do....


  1. Oh Suzanne. I don't even know what to write right now. I suppose I can only offer you my shoulder from here on the other side of the country. I'm so sorry you've been put on this emotional roller coaster.

    Suzanne B (in CA)

  2. Suzanne and family -

    I'm am very sorry to read your post. We'll be sure to remember you in our prayers during this very difficult time.

    Schlef family

  3. I am so sorry. I feel for you and all of us who are waiting but to get your hopes up like that is so wrong. I had heard a rumor that someone very involved with these adoptions was leaving for a month so I think we are all going to be affected by this and now our babies have to sit in the orphanage there while we sit over here missing them even longer. I will keep you in my prayers.

  4. Suzanne, I am so sorry. I know there is not much I can say to make any of this better. Please know you are in my prayers.

  5. I am so sorry...I can't think of anything else to say that would make you feel any better. It's not fair, and it's not right! I'll keep you (and Addison) in my prayers.

  6. Oh my dear Suzanne!! I am so sorry and angry and sad for you right now. I wish there was something helpful I could say, or better yet, do to make this easier for you. I don't understand why this has to be so hard.

    You are in my thoughts.
    xoxo April Taylor

  7. Suzanne, we are very sorry to her of the news! We were floored last night when we heard. If you need a shoulder to cry into, Eric and I are always a phone call away. Please know that our thoughts are with you.

  8. Sorry to hear about this, Suzanne...we'll be praying that you'll get a court date soon. Can't another representative appear before the judge? It's been a month now since that representative went on vacation, so hopefully you'll hear from the court by this week...